For me being the best dad I can be means everything.
Having grown up in a violent, chaotic and alcoholic household I am determined that history will not repeat itself with my three daughters.
That they will have the best childhood possible.
My beautiful, gorgeous daughters who in spite of my parenting foibles and fears are developing into three confident, healthy and dare I say it spirited, young ladies.
Like many Dads I speak to, since our eldest arrived eight and a half years ago, I have struggled with the ever moving challenge of balancing a high level corporate job and home life.
Cursed with the double-edged ambition of excelling in both my career and in fatherhood, it is something that I have recently failed at.
Stress. Arguments. Working away. Exhaustion. More arguments.
I am often reminded that:
‘If you are not careful you will blink and just might miss the most precious, formative years of your children’s lives’.
Despite my best efforts there have been repeated missed school concerts, sports days, parents evenings, the list goes on ad infinitum.
Well last Monday in one respect I made one of the boldest decisions I have ever made in my life.
I walked away from a multi-million pound opportunity that would have been life changing to myself and my family from a financial security point of view.
The sacrifice however would have been not being present and actively participating in the most important formative years of my daughters (aged 8, 6 and 4) for at least the next five years.
Yes, there would have been money to pay for more holidays, cars etc but at what cost?
At best an absent Dad.
At worst more depression, unhappiness and I am pretty certain a downward trajectory to divorce.
They say the greatest gift that you can give your children is your time.
And that is exactly what I am determined to achieve as I commence the next chapter in my life to attempt to achieve the holy grail of being a present parent AND achieving success in my career.
Ideas4Dads is something that was conceived before my eldest was born and I have been blogging on and off for the last five years.
This time it is different.
This time Ideas4Dads is here to stay with my vision of building a community of like minded Dads to help inspire each other to be even better.
Its been a while but I am glad to be back.
Watch this space!
As always I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic.
What sacrifices as a parent have you made?
Did it work out?
If you could change one thing about the last five years from a work-life balance point of view what would that be?
As always it would be great to hear from you with your comments below 🙂
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