When is the right time to jettison those dead weight friendships?
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When is it the right time to jettison dead weight friendships?

When is the right time to jettison those dead weight friendships?
When is the right time to jettison those dead weight friendships?

I am one of those people who flew the nest from where they grew up and ended up settling at the other end of the country.

As a result of this, and through studying at two Universities, I have acquired an eclectic mix of friends and friendship groups along the way.

Some have cemented themselves as true friendships for life.

Others have been passing phases that I have grown out of and have slipped by the wayside.

Letting go of friendships developed along the way has been fine except for one group.

Namely my childhood friendship group.

Friends who I grew up with, shared those all important formative years together, had roles at each other’s weddings and became reciprocal God parents.

Friends I feel a deep sense of loyalty to.

The prompt for writing this is that I have just returned from taking High Command and my children to stay with my supposed best mate, his wife and my God Children.

We do this every so often.

More out of obligation and the fact that the kids enjoy playing together.

And each time I return thinking I’m never going to do that again.

For many reasons which include not being to made to feel welcome, that we have nothing in common now other than our children and most importantly I don’t enjoy spending time with them anymore.

But yet we still return and I hate it every time.

Albert Einstein said:

‘The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and yet expecting a different outcome’

As I near the half way mark in my life I need to become more selective with how I spend my time and who with.

Part of that is going to start with having a clear out of those dead wood friendships that do not bring out the best in me 🙂

Do you have trouble letting go of certain friendships even though they are not good for you?

How do you know when it is time to move on from a friendship?

As always it would be great to hear from you with your comments below 🙂

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6 thoughts on “When is it the right time to jettison dead weight friendships?”

  1. I can relate to this a lot, after leaving home for university a few days after my 18th, lived at home for a while after, then moved away, and then moved again. I don’t really have any friends from school but I do have one or two friends from 20 years ago who I really have nothing in common with now. We have children of similar age but that’s it. Our closest friends are those we met afterwards and arguably more aligned to our “grown up” lives. My husband is always surprised that we are friends, but we do all
    Get on and I’ve let go of any feelings of obligations and just spend the now infrequent time together just enjoying it for what it is. We have a shared history with some fairly major events, and that will always bring an insight and ability to rely on each other, even if now our ideas of a good time and our social and political views are totally different. #triumphanttales

    1. I so relate to the shared history thing. I think that’s what makes it so hard for me. I envy other friends who are able to be so ruthless and cull friendships that no longer work for them. Oh well slowly slowly I’m heading in the right direction:-)

  2. Oh, I know what you mean. I have actually gone through with doing this in recent years and believe me when I say, it’s SO liberating! It may feel difficult at the time, but it’s very much worth it. Thanks for sharing with us at #TriumphantTales, we’d love to see you back again next week.

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