Mid Life Crisis - When do you know you are having one?
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Midlife Crisis – How do you know your having one?

Mid Life Crisis - When do you know you are having one?
Midlife crisis? What midlife crisis?

It would be fair to say that I am currently going through a state of flux.

Undergoing change.

Lot’s of change.

And no I don’t mean transitioning to a Sad Clown.

With my corporate career firmly deposited in the bin I am now looking to pastures new.

Giving up the secure salary and all the trimmings to pursue my Ideas4Dads venture.

It’s a little bit scary but also very exciting!

I am adamant that if I had continued pursuing winning the rat race I would have ended up divorced, disconnected from my children and/or six feet under.

I am already starting to feel the benefits of getting back into blogging and pursuing it full time.

One particular benefit is that I have been able to do lots of reflecting.

Reflecting on what makes me happy and the barometers I can use to measure whether I am happy or not.

I have also been using the time to reconnect with being a Dad and what being a Dad means to me.

However one thing that has dawned on me is that I am beginning to accept that I am entering into a midlife crisis albeit a little early at 39 years old if Wikipedia is anything to go by:

‘A midlife crisis is a transition of identity and self-confidence that can occur in middle-aged individuals, typically 45–64 years old. The phenomenon is described as a psychological crisis brought about by events that highlight a person’s growing age, inevitable mortality, and possibly shortcomings of accomplishments in life. This may produce feelings of depression, remorse, and anxiety, or the desire to achieve youthfulness or make drastic changes to current lifestyle’.

I am sure this will be the first of many but to address the title of this post here are some of the things that have been running through my head:

  • Strong desire to follow my passion of giving up my corporate life despite the financial insecurity it poses in the short term
  • That I don’t have long until my daughters grow up and need to make the most of this precious time
  • That my focus is now on my own health and enjoying life rather than chasing the money dream
  • That I need to stop worrying about what people might think of me if I do X or look like Y
  • That I really need to get round to getting that tattoo I’ve wanted for the last twenty years
  • Time to get my ear re-pierced
  • That I have become a full blown road cycling MAMIL (Middle Aged Man in Lycra to coin the Daily Mail phrase)

These are just some of mine and I am sure there many more that I haven’t thought of yet!

Have you started or been through a midlife crisis?

What did it mean for you and what things did you do to address your mid life crisis?

As always it would be great to hear from you with your comments πŸ™‚

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18 thoughts on “Midlife Crisis – How do you know your having one?”

  1. Well, I went through a mid-life crisis at the age of 19 and vowed not to have another one later in life. I now find myself in my forties, with greying hair and less of it on top. I am aware of my mortality and while I have toyed with the idea of getting another tattoo I’m not getting it done (the first, my one and only, was hacked into my skin by a tattoo artist in Blackpool at the age of 17). I’m also getting more interested in my health.

    Reading that back, it looks like I’m having one doesn’t it? I don’t feel like I am though. I am merely acknowledging my age.

  2. I feel as though I’m fast approaching my forties (I’m 37) and I do feel as though I need more order in my life and that the pace needs to slow down. Then again I’ve had an unexpectedly difficult year so far which probably adds to my quest for calm! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with #Blogstravaganza πŸ™‚

  3. I think it’s natural to reflect and re-evaluate things from time to time and when big Birthdays are looming or have just happened it does seem to happen more intensely. I think you have made a bold and wise step to be a present father and see where the blog can take you. I turned 40 this year and took a career break from teaching to spend more time with my girls before they start school in 2019. As you say these formative years go so fast….. Thanks for linking up to #thesatsesh and good luck with this new phase of your life. I look forward to reading more about it.

    1. Thanks Hayley much appreciated. I have always been in such a rush to get on to the next thing. Well done you on taking career break. Lots of happy memories as a result I’m sure πŸ˜‰

    1. Sounds like a very good thing to do – I am a great believer in the power of reflection, the trick is making the time to do it πŸ™‚

  4. Well I spent the first half of my 40s having children with my toyboy!! Maybe it was a midlife crisis? He’s in his 40s now so I’m waiting for him to have his, although I don’t think he’s actually grown up enough yet.

  5. Is this a crisis or a re-evaluation? I’ve started taking my health a lot more seriously as I’m seeing my parents and other family members age. This means dong more exercise, although you never see me turning into a MAMIL! Time with the kids? Oh my word as Helen nears her tenth birthday I see them growing up at a ferocious rate. I read a statistic once, no idea of its source, but is said 90% of the time you spend with your kids is before they’re 11 years of age. Am I re-evaluating my life now, yes. But I had my midlife crisis when I went from 19 to 20. At that point had my ears pierced. Ain’t no way I’m doing that again!

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