It’s a strange feeling realising the degree to which you have become dissociated from your family as a result of your job and the hours you have been working.
Not being present.
Your mind always being on other things rather than focusing on the moment of enjoying being with your family.
For me being the best Dad and Husband I can be is my number one priority but at some point over the last couple of years this has fallen down the pecking order of life.
This is primarily as a result of my work commitments.
Readers will know this is something that I have recently taken a bold move and addressed.
But part of me also has to accept since our youngest of three started the terrible two’s phase I have found being a Dad really, really tough.
As the saying goes ‘You will never regret having a third, but may do if you don’t’ is something I agree with and I wouldn’t swap my life.
However, taking that step up from two to three children was a much bigger leap than I ever envisaged.
Throw in a demanding corporate job and things became unsustainable.
I used to pride myself on being a confident and independent Dad, able to do anything with my girls.
Introducing a third into the mix however has changed things completely.
I lost the ability to be able to take all three out, to give High Command a rest.
Whenever I ventured out with the three of them they would be like the Red Arrows exploding in three opposite directions!
Couple this with a bad back that ‘goes’ when yanked on by a child, together with my own mental health fears and anxieties of something happening to them on my watch and it becomes increasingly more difficult .
As I begin a brand new chapter in my life of working from home and spending more time with my family it has dawned on me that there is a significant amount of rebuilding to do.
To reconnect and reintegrate within the family unit.
Part of me is frustrated at this.
That I have let things reach this point.
Another part is sad at the way things are.
Have you ever found yourself having grown apart from you partner and kids?
What steps did you take to remedy the situation?
As always it would be great to hear from you with your comments below 🙂
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