Dadtime: Starting small to build confidence!
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Dadtime: Starting small to build confidence!

Dadtime: Starting small to build confidence!
Dadtime: Starting small to build confidence!

For some Dads spending enjoyable time with their children comes naturally and easily.

However, for others the thought of spending time with their children can produce anxiety and worry which can result in a reluctance to do so.

This can lead to a crisis in confidence and feelings of guilt and failure as a Dad.

This reluctance could be a result of a disrupted childhood impacting on our ability to enjoy spending time with our children.

Or it could be due to an overwhelming sense of fear and anxiety that something terrible is going to happen when we are spending time with our children.

Or it can simply be that we feel we are just not doing enough job.

What ever our situation the good news is that there are many things that we can do to make things easier and make the time we spend as Dads with our children more enjoyable.

Firstly, it is important to acknowledge that the primary things our children want from us as a Dad is our time and undivided attention (which includes putting the phone away).

Secondly, it also important to appreciate that our children don’t need the latest expensive gadgets or spectacular activities to enjoy time with their Dad.

If we feel apprehension about spending time with our children the first step is to break things down into small, bitesize activities.

There are many simple and achievable activities we can do with our children which can include:

Outside:

  • A trip to the park
  • A walk in the Forest
  • Attending a Dad’s toddler or children’s group
  • Going for a bike ride
  • Visiting the library
  • Swimming
  • Going to the cinema
  • Feeding the ducks
  • Going for a picnic
  • Playing catch
  • Playing football
  • Playing tennis
  • Chalk pictures on the drive or wall
  • Going to museums

Inside:

  • Crafting
  • Drawing a picture
  • Painting & colouring
  • Baking
  • Writing a letter or postcard
  • Writing a story
  • Taking photos
  • Den building
  • Playing card games such as snap, dominoes, dobble
  • Playing a board game
  • Doing a jigsaw
  • Playing games on their tablet
  • Science experiments

Through scheduling regular Dad time with our children to do simple activities it will build our confidence and soon become a routine.

Another approach to take where we have more than one child is to divide and conquer to enable us to spend one-on-one time with each sibling.

Not only does this enable quality interaction it also makes things more manageable.

Have you struggled with anxiety regarding spending time with your children?

What steps did you take to overcome this?

As always it would be great to hear from you with your comments below πŸ™‚

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16 thoughts on “Dadtime: Starting small to build confidence!”

  1. I am always trying to encourage my husband to spend some one on one time with our little one. He works long hours and weekends, so I get our daughter to myself quite a bit of the time, but these are some brilliant ideas to dip the toe in one on one time and creating some great memories!
    #BlogCrush

  2. #thesatsesh i’m not sure how i feel about the word ‘scheduling’ although i probably do make time specifically with the little dude and also for us as a couple for us to do specific things….the word seems to make it sound like a chore? isn’t it funny how a word can make us feel? Dad time is best when silly and the child is crying with laughter πŸ™‚

    1. Interesting. I’m all for fun and spontaneity. In my world fun with my children uses to only happen if I made sure I blocked put time during the week and at weekends to spend with them when my work was crazy busy and unmanageable. Thankfully this is all in the past now and I have a much better work life balance.

  3. Really good tips here. I’m going to show this to my hubby to give him some ideas. Though he is very good and usually bakes with the kids when he has some time with them, I’m sure he would appreciate these options too that he may not have thought of before. You touch upon an important topic here – fatherhood anxiety – I think this is something you could explore further in future posts. #thesatsesh

    1. Great. Let me know how you get with your hubby. And thank you for the top tip on father good anxiety will most certainly add this to the list πŸ™‚

    1. Thank you – it’s good to hear acknowledgement about the pressure thing – for me some is self imposed and some is adhering to what society demands and expects – all silly really when all my kids what to spend time with a happy dad πŸ™‚

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