For some Dads spending enjoyable time with their children comes naturally and easily.
However, for others the thought of spending time with their children can produce anxiety and worry which can result in a reluctance to do so.
This can lead to a crisis in confidence and feelings of guilt and failure as a Dad.
This reluctance could be a result of a disrupted childhood impacting on our ability to enjoy spending time with our children.
Or it could be due to an overwhelming sense of fear and anxiety that something terrible is going to happen when we are spending time with our children.
Or it can simply be that we feel we are just not doing enough job.
What ever our situation the good news is that there are many things that we can do to make things easier and make the time we spend as Dads with our children more enjoyable.
Firstly, it is important to acknowledge that the primary things our children want from us as a Dad is our time and undivided attention (which includes putting the phone away).
Secondly, it also important to appreciate that our children don’t need the latest expensive gadgets or spectacular activities to enjoy time with their Dad.
If we feel apprehension about spending time with our children the first step is to break things down into small, bitesize activities.
There are many simple and achievable activities we can do with our children which can include:
- A trip to the park
- A walk in the Forest
- Attending a Dad’s toddler or children’s group
- Going for a bike ride
- Visiting the library
- Going to the cinema
- Feeding the ducks
- Going for a picnic
- Playing catch
- Playing football
- Playing tennis
- Chalk pictures on the drive or wall
- Going to museums
- Drawing a picture
- Painting & colouring
- Writing a letter or postcard
- Writing a story
- Taking photos
- Den building
- Playing card games such as snap, dominoes, dobble
- Playing a board game
- Doing a jigsaw
- Playing games on their tablet
- Science experiments
Through scheduling regular Dad time with our children to do simple activities it will build our confidence and soon become a routine.
Another approach to take where we have more than one child is to divide and conquer to enable us to spend one-on-one time with each sibling.
Not only does this enable quality interaction it also makes things more manageable.
Have you struggled with anxiety regarding spending time with your children?
What steps did you take to overcome this?
As always it would be great to hear from you with your comments below 🙂
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