I have been thinking quite a lot recently.
About many different things.
Which is never a good thing when you have a mind that often resembles a box of fireworks all going off at once.
That is the label of a Stay at Home Dad or SAHD for short (although I’m never a fan of acronyms that implicate you are sad or indeed have some sort of condition for that matter).
I’ve also never been a big fan of labels full stop.
In fact when The Inbetweeners first aired I felt for the first time I had found my tribe!
You see I’ve always resisted being labelled, opting rather to be a ‘Label Floater’, whether it be during my career, within sports teams or a particular social grouping.
So the question I’m coming to is…….what actually qualifies to describe oneself as a Stay At Home Dad?
I have commonly seen Dads class themselves as a Stay At Home Dad when they are the primary full-time carer whilst their children have yet to start school, whilst their significant other is the primary earner.
Wikipedia defines a Stay at Home Dad as:
A stay-at-home dad (alternatively, stay at home father, house dad, SAHD, househusband, or house-spouse) is a father who is the main caregiver of the children and is generally the homemaker of the household. As families have evolved, the practice of being a stay-at-home dad has become more common and socially acceptable.
Which in my mind is clear-cut.
Sadly circumstances (or foresight) did not present themselves for me to jack in my corporate job whilst at least one of our three children was not at school and for my wife to return to work.
Although I did manage to convince my old employers to allow me to work a condensed 9-day fortnight to allow me to take every other Friday off to spend it with my middle and youngest daughters before they started school (which is something I am very proud to have done).
Anyway I digress.
This leads me on to my present predicament.
Our youngest daughter (of three) starts school this Thursday.
Therefore all three daughters will be safely ensconced within the great British education system.
I have just jacked in my job to focus primarily on being a Dad whilst starting to blog professionally and work as a freelance copywriter (from home), around our three daughter’s (8, 6 & 4yo) school and extra curricular activities.
At the same time my wife is going to return to work as a teacher to provide our family with some income.
Although the finer details are still be finalised I will also be taking on a lot more of responsibilities around running the home.
Is this enough to bestow me with the noble label of Stay at Home Dad?
Can you still be a Stay At Home Dad once all the kids have started school?
The honest answer is I’m not sure?
Would welcome your thoughts as I really don’t want to fraudulently join any more SAHD facebook groups!
What do you think defines a Stay at Home Dad?
Do you class yourself as a Stay at Home Dad?
As always it would be great to hear from you with your comments below 🙂
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