Taking a step back to look at how we can reboot our Dad experience can hugely enhance our parenting experience
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9 Ways We Can Reboot Our Dad Experience

Taking a step back to look at how we can reboot our Dad experience can hugely enhance our parenting experience
Taking a step back to look at how we can reboot our Dad experience can hugely enhance our parenting experience and improve our happiness.

In the modern world of busy jobs, bills to pay and the challenges that being a Dad brings with it, it is easy for us to become overwhelmed as a Dad.

However the good news is that no matter where we are in our Dad journey there are steps we can take to reboot and improve our Dad experience:

  • First things first start small as Dad’s in modern society it is very easy to heap pressure on ourselves to always do amazing things with our kids when in actual fact all children want is our time and presence. Rather than focusing on trying to do huge and spectacular activities we can focus on smaller and achievable things like going for a nature walk or a trip to the swings to get the momentum going and to build confidence as a Dad.
  • Schedule regular Dad time together they say it takes approximately 21 days to form a habit. Whatever our circumstances by scheduling regular and consistent time with our children we can develop this into a habit. This could be at the weekend, after school or through seeking flexible working from our employer.
  • Ask your children what they want to do – it is surprising how often this opportunity is missed. Through speaking to our children and asking them what activities they want to do we can seek inspiration from this and ensure the activities we are doing are what our children want to do.
  • Be present in the moment – when we are busy and our minds are preoccupied with other things such as work deadlines or household chores it can be difficult to give our children our undivided attention. Getting out of the house if there are distracting jobs to do or through getting up early at the weekend to finish a piece of work off that is worrying us can allow us to focus on enjoying the time we spend with our children.
  • Put your phone away Dad in the modern digital age the smart phone is our saviour but also our worst enemy. How many of us are guilty of spending time on our phones when we should be giving our children our undivided presence. By leaving the phone at home or switching it off/using our out of office/voicemail stating we are unavailable, together with having a separate camera if this is a reason for carrying a phone, this can enable us to give our children the focused attention they crave.
  • Get down to their level and see the magic through their eyes – one of the easiest ways to engage with our children is to get down to their level and strive to view the world through their eyes. What we often take for granted such as a beautiful sky or a coloured stone is often captivating to our children. Through getting down to our children’s level we can share in the magic of their moment and embrace it.
  • Spend time with other Dads the power of spending time with other Dads and their kids should never be underestimated. Building our network of kindred spirits and realising that other Dads experience the sames trials and tribulations as us can provide reassurance and also provides the opportunity to learn how others cope with particular challenges.
  • Seek advice and information – through subscribing to Dad information websites for regular updates such as this one or to Dad magazines, we can learn how other Dads cope with the challenges of parenthood and seek ideas and inspiration that we can bring to our own parenting experiences.
  • Explore flexible working despite there still being stigma attached to men seeking flexible parental working hours the benefits can be huge. Working a condensed four day week or a nine day fortnight or starting work later/leaving earlier can provide opportunities to spend more time with our children.

Have you ever found yourself in a rut as a dad?

What advice would you give to someone seeking to reboot their Dad experience?

As always it would be great to hear from you with your comments below πŸ™‚

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13 thoughts on “9 Ways We Can Reboot Our Dad Experience”

  1. These are great tips! We all get so busy with “life” that we tend to forget to enjoy the small special moments. A very encouraging post! Thank you for linking up with #globalblogging

    1. Thank you that’s very kind. I have to be so careful I don’t get sucked back into the super busy chaos of life. Easily done though!

  2. Its amazing what getting down on the kids levels can do to make you realise their world is so different down there. Just today Ben was sat on the floor watching tele and playing with the twins and I sat down with him and the moment with all four of us was wonderful!
    Thank you for sharing this with us at #TriumphantTales. I hope to see you back next week!

  3. I find it interesting to see things from a father’s perspective.
    These are great tips especially #2 and especially if you have boys and most importantly, before they become teens.

    #ThatFridayLinky

  4. Well Tom, considering your recent experinces, I guess this comes from the heart. Agree with what you’ve said here, especially being present in the moment and spending one on one time together with your kids. #thatfridaylinky

    1. Thsnks John much appreciated and very much from the heart which I hope resonate and provoke reflection in others. Every cloud has a silver lining and all that and as my Gran used to say there is always something good to come out of even the most rubbish of situations πŸ™‚ Thank you so much for taking the time to stop by πŸ™‚

  5. Whilst my kids spent time with their biological father after our divorce they would often moan how dad didn’t do anything with them and after a while they preferred to stay at home on weekends with my husband and I. As we both worked full time we had welcomed the weekends off but after a short period of time we realised the kids needed some structure and routine and while I caught up with the demands of a full time job and 5 kids, by doing the washing, my husband would spend valuable time with the boys in the garden, the park, doing DIY as well as trips to the cinema and the exciting stuff. What the kids remember the most now is the time they spent at home with both of us, not the days out. #keepingitreal

    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to stop by πŸ™‚ I am learning how to combine DIY and jobs around the house with involving the girls despite me being a control freak it’s working well Nd they get loads out if feeling like they are contributing and spending time with dad πŸ™‚

  6. Great post Tom and great tips love put your phone away dad my 6 year old twins say that to me Thank you for linking to #Thatfridaylinky please come back next week

    1. Yes the phonbe is a big one for both my kids and and my wife. Follow up post on this topic publishing shortly πŸ™‚ Thank you so much for taking the time to stop by πŸ™‚

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